I hung out with a couple of my Caucasian sistas recently, one of which is dating a black guy, and a light bulb went off in my head as to why he is into her. I totally get it! Now, I must admit, when he walked in and kissed her I felt some innate responsibility to give an uhh face and a side eye at the spectacle for my people. But they were cute together and I really liked the girl :) Seeing them interact brought back all of the dead horse topics about black men preferring white women we have so eloquently abused and sodomized from every angle over the years. It wasn’t hard to see what he saw in her. She was extremely friendly, free-spirited and all smiles in personality. In the first 30 seconds of her laying eyes on him she rattled off 101 compliments like a machine gun in Iraq. STOP – HOLD UP – TAKE NOTES SBWs. Now, I don’t know about you but my initial reaction was, “this girl is doing way too much”. I just would not have guessed that one person needs that many compliments in that short of a time span. But the point is, she admires, desires and appreciates her man and isn’t afraid to let him and everyone else that cares to listen know so. POINT TAKEN.
I say all that to say this: SBWs quit hating so hard for no reason. You’re wasting too much energy. (Instead go to your local pub and test drive a white guy :) ‘The Cause’ will be there long after you leave this Earth. SHARING IS CARING.
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Hahaha! Sounds like the THE BIG APPLE has turned someone out! At this point in my life, I am open to dating white men. I just need to find the perfect balance in one. :)
ReplyDeleteFinding that balance is key in interracial dating. My theory is black-white guys mesh well with white women, black being his race and white representing his socialization. Likewise, white-black men mesh well with black women. I could be totally wrong, but this is my blog which means I am totally right!
ReplyDelete...and YES I am becoming more and more liberal by the day living in The City :)
Better yet...instead of going after a white guy, why not do the same thing with a black man that you are with? It seems to be an issue to praise a black man, but expect for him to praise you? I love the post, but the take home...hmmm...not sure about that. It would be so much easier to do what you see other women doing with A GOOD BLACK MAN. MOST BLACK MEN, really try to get a black woman that just gets it! Women in other cultures are TAUGHT...YOU MAKE THE MAN! Black women from our generation, as spiritual as they are, they forget that the bible lets us know that woman was made from and for the man. However, they have been taught through many years of conditioning to use these words, "I DON'T NEED NO MAN!" Duh...He needs you! Even Proverbs 31, is really about a man and what kind of woman his mother was telling him to choose. But...I won't go into that. But, black women think that the women of other races are their issue. Black women are their own enemies against their men. Over 90% of black men that get married, marry black women. Therefore, the other men that aren't married and want to be, just don't want to deal with verbal abuse and coming second to the relationship while everyone and everything else comes first. A man came first and always wants to feel first in some manner. When this happens, he has no choice but to put his woman, no matter her race, first!!!! Again, I love the post...keep it up! ;-) www.armanivalentino.com
ReplyDeleteArmani Valentino my main man! The talk about going after white men is not to discredit black men in any way. Go after white men as a means of keeping your options for love open, much in the same way black men do when they go after white women.
ReplyDeleteTo address your question: All that sounds great. Why don't SBWs just get with the program, adjust the way we "treat" our black brothers, maybe even take some tips from Becky. In theory it's just that easy. In real life I am a firm believer of allowing people to be who they are, in their purest form, and loving them for that. Because, ultimately, they will revert to their true self - the way they were intended to be.
Contrary to the hype, the everyday black woman does not treat her man badly; quite the opposite. We were taught to hold our men down at all cost, to make him a better man. Black women show their love differently from white women. One is not better than the other, just two different love languages. White women may shower you with compliments and validation daily to show she loves and desires you. Black women may loan you that last couple grand you need to start your business or encourage you to go after that position you don't feel qualified for. Just different. All we ask in return is that you love us for who we are (for the good and the bad).
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