I had to stop and think – When did we become so selfish as a race of people that no one else can date our men without first checking with the National Single Black Women Alumni Association? Why does it burn some sistas to see white women with black men?
I hung out with a couple of my Caucasian sistas recently, one of which is dating a black guy, and a light bulb went off in my head as to why he is into her. I totally get it! Now, I must admit, when he walked in and kissed her I felt some innate responsibility to give an uhh face and a side eye at the spectacle for my people. But they were cute together and I really liked the girl :) Seeing them interact brought back all of the dead horse topics about black men preferring white women we have so eloquently abused and sodomized from every angle over the years. It wasn’t hard to see what he saw in her. She was extremely friendly, free-spirited and all smiles in personality. In the first 30 seconds of her laying eyes on him she rattled off 101 compliments like a machine gun in Iraq. STOP – HOLD UP – TAKE NOTES SBWs. Now, I don’t know about you but my initial reaction was, “this girl is doing way too much”. I just would not have guessed that one person needs that many compliments in that short of a time span. But the point is, she admires, desires and appreciates her man and isn’t afraid to let him and everyone else that cares to listen know so. POINT TAKEN.
I say all that to say this: SBWs quit hating so hard for no reason. You’re wasting too much energy. (Instead go to your local pub and test drive a white guy :) ‘The Cause’ will be there long after you leave this Earth. SHARING IS CARING.